Reality is LIFE, in its truest sense. the good, the Bad and the sometimes ugly.
I personally refuse to succumb to reality, sure I am AWARE of it...payments you need to make, work to complete, and a family to tend to. However, I don't allow the negatives in life get me down.
I say, if you want to give yourself a great chance in succeeding in life, you need to stay focused and that means not allowing negative thoughts and experiences hold you down.
Reality is something I refuse to allow take control of me.. what I mean is, I accept it for what it is ...and I move on.
Life can get hard sometimes, especially as we get older....I look it life through the eyes of a child sometimes....how wondrous it really is and full of possibilities. Reality may be that you have a crazy job, an ungrateful spouse or your neighbors suck, who cares I say....sure that may be the reality of the situation, however I choose to look on the brighter side of MY reality.
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Sunday, July 22, 2007
Monday, July 16, 2007
Sometimes you have to force yourself to stop...and smell the roses.
Why is it that when you are slammed with deadlines and the time is just a tickin... people panic...instead of taking a moment and stepping away for a second to regroup...sure I'm not perfect, however, I do make it a habit to step out if I'm feeling like the day is getting to me....get some fresh air, call a friend....just stepping away for a second helps a great deal!
Whatever happened to the days when I was a kid when a whole day was like..WOW..I have all day to play...and WOW ...I have the whole day to watch cartoons and don't forget...all day just hanging out with your friends.
Factor in growing up and getting a job...
Now we have panic attacks, freaking out and having heart attacks from the stress of life.
Its not doing anyone any good to out themselves through that, sure life can throw you a curve, you'll have challenging days...you're trying to keep up with the rat race...you have an employer you must keep happy, a spouse to tend to...kids...the house...your own personal life wants and needs...everything....doesn't it make sense to gather all that up and have a plan to dealing with it all, when things are getting stressful make it a habit to step aside for a second...you'll see....it'll make a huge difference!
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Whatever happened to the days when I was a kid when a whole day was like..WOW..I have all day to play...and WOW ...I have the whole day to watch cartoons and don't forget...all day just hanging out with your friends.
Factor in growing up and getting a job...
Now we have panic attacks, freaking out and having heart attacks from the stress of life.
Its not doing anyone any good to out themselves through that, sure life can throw you a curve, you'll have challenging days...you're trying to keep up with the rat race...you have an employer you must keep happy, a spouse to tend to...kids...the house...your own personal life wants and needs...everything....doesn't it make sense to gather all that up and have a plan to dealing with it all, when things are getting stressful make it a habit to step aside for a second...you'll see....it'll make a huge difference!
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Sunday, July 8, 2007
Sometimes I feel like screaming
Sometimes I feel like screaming to the top of my lungs because I'm in pain.
I have to take medicine everyday to keep myself from going insane.
I have schizophrenia just like my late uncle did.
He was committed three times when I was a kid.
Unlike my uncle, I always take my medicine.
He always stopped taking it and that was why he was committed again and again.
With each breakdown he had, he got even worse.
Having schizophrenia is like having a curse.
My uncle thought he was God, he was completely out of his head.
I don't want to suffer the same fate, I'd rather be dead.
It's terrible to know that schizophrenia is what I've got.
I guess I was destined to be mentally ill but I hope you're not.
I have to take medicine everyday to keep myself from going insane.
I have schizophrenia just like my late uncle did.
He was committed three times when I was a kid.
Unlike my uncle, I always take my medicine.
He always stopped taking it and that was why he was committed again and again.
With each breakdown he had, he got even worse.
Having schizophrenia is like having a curse.
My uncle thought he was God, he was completely out of his head.
I don't want to suffer the same fate, I'd rather be dead.
It's terrible to know that schizophrenia is what I've got.
I guess I was destined to be mentally ill but I hope you're not.
Friday, July 6, 2007
How is your relationship?
Abuse
How is your relationship? Does your partner:
* Embarrass you with put-downs?
* Look at you or act in ways that scare you?
* Control what you do, who you see or talk to or where you go?
* Stop you from seeing your friends or family members?
* Take your money or Social Security check, make you ask for money or refuse to give you money?
* Make all of the decisions?
* Tell you that you�re a bad parent or threaten to take away or hurt your children?
* Prevent you from working or attending school?
* Act like the abuse is no big deal, it�s your fault, or even deny doing it?
* Destroy your property or threaten to kill your pets?
* Intimidate you with guns, knives or other weapons? Shove you, slap you, choke you, or hit you?
* Force you to try and drop charges?
* Threaten to commit suicide? Threaten to kill you? .
If you answered 'yes' to even one of these questions, you may be in an abusive relationship
Safety Alert
Computer use can be monitored and is impossible to completely clear. If you are afraid your internet and/or computer usage might be monitored, please use a safer computer, call your local hotline, and/or call the National Domestic Violence Hotline.
How is your relationship? Does your partner:
* Embarrass you with put-downs?
* Look at you or act in ways that scare you?
* Control what you do, who you see or talk to or where you go?
* Stop you from seeing your friends or family members?
* Take your money or Social Security check, make you ask for money or refuse to give you money?
* Make all of the decisions?
* Tell you that you�re a bad parent or threaten to take away or hurt your children?
* Prevent you from working or attending school?
* Act like the abuse is no big deal, it�s your fault, or even deny doing it?
* Destroy your property or threaten to kill your pets?
* Intimidate you with guns, knives or other weapons? Shove you, slap you, choke you, or hit you?
* Force you to try and drop charges?
* Threaten to commit suicide? Threaten to kill you? .
If you answered 'yes' to even one of these questions, you may be in an abusive relationship
Safety Alert
Computer use can be monitored and is impossible to completely clear. If you are afraid your internet and/or computer usage might be monitored, please use a safer computer, call your local hotline, and/or call the National Domestic Violence Hotline.
Saturday, June 30, 2007
Learn how to say no
Sure it's easier to say yes, but at what price to your peace of mind? Here's why saying no may be a healthier option for stress relief.
Be honest with yourself. Is your plate piled too high with deadlines and obligations that you're trying to squeeze in between meetings? Are you trying to cram too many activities into too little time? If so, stress relief can be as straightforward as just saying no — or no more.
Why say no?
There are countless worthy requests out there just waiting to decrease the amount of free time you have, and increase your level of stress. So, it's easy to create stressful situations in your life, if you don't turn down requests for your time and talents.
Who will make costumes for the school play or coach your children's Little League team if you don't? The answer may not be simple, but you should still consider these reasons for making sure it's not you.
* Saying no can be good for you. Saying no is not a selfish act. In fact, it may be the most beneficial thing that you can do for your family and your other commitments. When you say no, you'll be able to spend quality time on the things you've already said yes to.
* Saying no can allow you to try new things. Just because you've always helped plan the company softball tournament doesn't mean that you have to keep doing it forever. Saying no will free up time to pursue other hobbies or interests.
* Yes isn't always the best answer. If you're overcommitted and under a lot of stress, you've got a much better chance of becoming sick, tired or just plain old crabby, which doesn't benefit you or anyone else.
* It's important to recognize the power of other people. Let those around you come through. Although others may not do things exactly the same way you would, you can learn a valuable lesson by allowing others to help, while gaining treasured free time.
When to say no
Sometimes it's tough to determine which activities deserve your time and attention. Use these strategies to evaluate obligations — and opportunities — that come your way.
* Find yourself. Saying no helps you prioritize the things that are important to you. You'll gain time that you can commit to the things that you really want to do, such as leaving work at a reasonable hour to make time for a mind-clearing run at the end of the day. Examine your current obligations and overall priorities before making any new commitments. Ask yourself if the new commitment is important to you. If it's something that you feel strongly about, by all means do it.
* Weigh the yes-to-stress ratio. Is the new activity that you're considering a short- or long-term commitment? Taking an afternoon to bake a batch of cookies for the school bake sale will take far less of your precious time than heading up the school fundraising committee for an entire year. If an activity is going to end up being another source of stress in your life — especially for the long term — take a pass.
* Let go of guilt. If friends want to get together for an impromptu evening out on the town when you've already scheduled a quiet evening at home with your partner, it's okay to decline their offer. Do what you've set out to do and don't veer off that path because of feelings of guilt or obligation. It will only lead to additional stress in your life.
* Keep your current commitments in check. If you have relatives coming over for dinner, don't go overboard. Order pizza or ask everyone to bring a dish to share.
* Sleep on it. Are you tempted by a friend's invitation to volunteer at your old alma mater or join a weekly golf league? Take a day to think over the request and respond after you've been able to assess your current commitments as well as the new opportunity.
How to say no
No. Nope. Nah. See how simple it is to say one little word that will allow you to take a pass on the things that aren't a priority? Of course, there are always instances when it's just not that easy. Here are some things to keep in mind when you need to say no:
* Practice full disclosure. Don't fabricate reasons to get out of an obligation. The truth is always the best way to turn down a friend, family member or co-worker.
* Let them down gently. Many good causes land at your door, and it can be tough to turn them down. Complimenting the person or group's effort while saying that you're unable to commit at this time helps to soften the blow and keep you in good graces.
Saying no won't be easy if you're used to saying yes all the time. But learning to say no is an important part of simplifying your way to a better, less stressful life.
Be honest with yourself. Is your plate piled too high with deadlines and obligations that you're trying to squeeze in between meetings? Are you trying to cram too many activities into too little time? If so, stress relief can be as straightforward as just saying no — or no more.
Why say no?
There are countless worthy requests out there just waiting to decrease the amount of free time you have, and increase your level of stress. So, it's easy to create stressful situations in your life, if you don't turn down requests for your time and talents.
Who will make costumes for the school play or coach your children's Little League team if you don't? The answer may not be simple, but you should still consider these reasons for making sure it's not you.
* Saying no can be good for you. Saying no is not a selfish act. In fact, it may be the most beneficial thing that you can do for your family and your other commitments. When you say no, you'll be able to spend quality time on the things you've already said yes to.
* Saying no can allow you to try new things. Just because you've always helped plan the company softball tournament doesn't mean that you have to keep doing it forever. Saying no will free up time to pursue other hobbies or interests.
* Yes isn't always the best answer. If you're overcommitted and under a lot of stress, you've got a much better chance of becoming sick, tired or just plain old crabby, which doesn't benefit you or anyone else.
* It's important to recognize the power of other people. Let those around you come through. Although others may not do things exactly the same way you would, you can learn a valuable lesson by allowing others to help, while gaining treasured free time.
When to say no
Sometimes it's tough to determine which activities deserve your time and attention. Use these strategies to evaluate obligations — and opportunities — that come your way.
* Find yourself. Saying no helps you prioritize the things that are important to you. You'll gain time that you can commit to the things that you really want to do, such as leaving work at a reasonable hour to make time for a mind-clearing run at the end of the day. Examine your current obligations and overall priorities before making any new commitments. Ask yourself if the new commitment is important to you. If it's something that you feel strongly about, by all means do it.
* Weigh the yes-to-stress ratio. Is the new activity that you're considering a short- or long-term commitment? Taking an afternoon to bake a batch of cookies for the school bake sale will take far less of your precious time than heading up the school fundraising committee for an entire year. If an activity is going to end up being another source of stress in your life — especially for the long term — take a pass.
* Let go of guilt. If friends want to get together for an impromptu evening out on the town when you've already scheduled a quiet evening at home with your partner, it's okay to decline their offer. Do what you've set out to do and don't veer off that path because of feelings of guilt or obligation. It will only lead to additional stress in your life.
* Keep your current commitments in check. If you have relatives coming over for dinner, don't go overboard. Order pizza or ask everyone to bring a dish to share.
* Sleep on it. Are you tempted by a friend's invitation to volunteer at your old alma mater or join a weekly golf league? Take a day to think over the request and respond after you've been able to assess your current commitments as well as the new opportunity.
How to say no
No. Nope. Nah. See how simple it is to say one little word that will allow you to take a pass on the things that aren't a priority? Of course, there are always instances when it's just not that easy. Here are some things to keep in mind when you need to say no:
* Practice full disclosure. Don't fabricate reasons to get out of an obligation. The truth is always the best way to turn down a friend, family member or co-worker.
* Let them down gently. Many good causes land at your door, and it can be tough to turn them down. Complimenting the person or group's effort while saying that you're unable to commit at this time helps to soften the blow and keep you in good graces.
Saying no won't be easy if you're used to saying yes all the time. But learning to say no is an important part of simplifying your way to a better, less stressful life.
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